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So the other night I was dreaming that I was running,
which in and off its health is nothing spectacular, I guess,
because I do run, you know?
I am a runner, I go on runs most days of the week
and that's what I was doing in my dream.
And I just had like the really cool run,
like beautiful environment and I just kept running and running
and I was enjoying myself.
And I kept running and running and running
and I got a bit tired, I got a bit exhausted.
Sometimes I wasn't sure, should I go left or go right?
Whatever, I just kept on running.
Overall, it was a good experience.
It's just that I was getting tired and a bit lost,
but I didn't worry about it much, right?
So yeah, I just ran and I ran and I ran.
And eventually I got more frustrated
because I was like, yeah, but you know, for how long
I'm not gonna run, you know, when is this going to end?
Where am I actually going?
And I just kept running and I realized at one point
I got so frustrated because I had no idea
where I was running to.
I had no idea where the destination was.
And no, I do not want to dissect the dream with you here
on the internet, like no way.
I want to go into that with you,
but I thought it would be a very good example
of what it is like when you live your life,
do your sports, do things without having a call.
Without, you know, knowing what the finish line is
and that is what I want to talk about today
because goals and goal setting, I think they are so crucial
in everything we do in life,
but especially when it comes to athletic feats,
athletic achievements, you know,
those are closely linked to our ability to goal set.
I feel like most of us we've been there
in one capacity or the other in an area of our life,
where we would just, you know, working hard,
doing the things, but at the same time we felt like,
you know, what is it for?
What is it all for?
Where am I going with this?
And it's frustrating and it is, it's, you know,
it feels like you're losing your time.
It feels like you're wasting your time.
At least it does for me.
I don't know if you have a similar experience with that.
So that is usually a sign when that is an area
where we have no goals or maybe not the right goals for us.
And I think that's something that can easily be rectified
and corrected and the goal setting is so beautiful,
but it's also been like over-talked and over-analyzed
and there's so many different ways
and so many like small tricks and small things
you can do here and there.
And I feel like I got really tired of the topic
of goal setting even though I love doing it
and it's a passion of mine almost.
Like I love setting goals and, you know,
working with dreams and, you know, making world maps
and all these things, but I kind of got like,
I heard so much about it that I get tired of it.
And I think in today's episode,
I wanna maybe give you my view on goals,
how I perceive them and also what I do differently.
So for me, it's not about using the right model
or using the right template and make sure
that everything is like perfectly worded
or connected to the perfect time frame or something.
Like I have a different focus.
I think when it comes to goals and I figured,
why not be one more person on the internet
that talks about goals and their perspective on it?
So here we go.
And with that, welcome to the healthy & aligned podcast.
I'm so excited to hear.
I'm excited to listen to another voice on the internet
to tell you, you know, their thoughts and their ideas.
And I am Lisa.
I am the host of this podcast.
I am also a mindset and tapping coach
for high performance athletes.
So I love to talk about all things mindset
and really like think about it, understand it, dissect it
and then make sure that it is operational operation.
Well, that it is applicable,
that it is operationalized, that's what I was looking for.
And that it is concrete in something for us to use.
And that's what I do on this podcast pretty much.
I just talk about all things mindset
and try to learn with you
as we all are on this journey of life.
So today it is about goal setting.
I have done more content about goal setting,
but I feel like my approach has refined over the years.
And before I want to go into it, let me just, you know,
dig a little bit deeper into why this is so important
to have goals.
I mean, I kind of like hinted at it
in my introduction to today's episode,
but without goals, we are somewhat directionless.
We work, we do things, we train, we rehearse,
we repeat, but we don't really know if we are doing
the things that helps us achieve living our dream life.
That helps us, you know, fulfill our dreams.
We're just going through the motions pretty much
without really knowing why.
And goals are basically helping us to really be locked
into our why, be really be connected to our motivation.
And correct us if we are not on the right path, right?
Or if we need to, we need to do things differently
because we're not achieving our goals, right?
That's like the biggest, the clearest sign
that something is not working out for us
if we don't eventually achieve our goals.
And that's why we need to look into it.
Ideally, we look into it before that, but okay.
So I feel like not having, not having goals
can be super fine in areas of your life
where you don't really want to achieve anything.
So if you know, if you just make,
we're make sure that you're well nourished
if you want to make sure that you are well fed,
but you don't really care how well the meal is prepared
or what it tastes like, you know,
you don't need to have goals in becoming a really good chef
in the kitchen and to hone your cooking skills, right?
Then it doesn't really matter.
You just make sure that you eat the right nutrients
that you have the right food at home
or you know where to order or who to go to
to get the best foods for your body.
And that's it.
Like you don't have to have a goal in every area
on every aspect of your life.
But in those areas where you really want to go somewhere,
where you really have that vision for yourself,
something better for you,
where you see something better for you
or something different from where you're currently at,
that's when goals are from my perspective indispensable
because they give you that clarity,
they give you that purpose, they give you that direction
and that correction if needed.
So I feel like if you want to seriously achieve something,
goals are the way to go.
And I would assume that most of us,
we have some sort of goals in those areas
where we want to achieve something.
The question is just, are those goals really serving us?
Are they helping us?
Are they motivating us?
Keeping us focused?
Do they help us push beyond the limits?
Is it like, do we just have them or do they serve us?
I think that's a really good way of looking at it.
And to dive a little bit deeper into what I mean with that,
I would like to look a bit closer at what a goal really is.
You know, I like to do that and I do that with goals as well.
So if we think about it, if we look at what does a goal do,
it basically is the bridge or the translation
between our dreams and desires and tangible achievements, right?
It's the transformation from a desire, from a dream,
from a vision that we have for ourselves into our reality.
That's what a goal helps us do.
It doesn't do it for us, but it gives us the map to do that.
It gives us the tools to do that, the path,
the clarity to do that.
So you want to go from A to B, A is the desire,
is the dream, is the idea and B is actually feeling it
in your life, seeing it in your life.
Having that whatever it is, that meadow
or crossing that finish line or that award or, you know,
I don't know the ring, I don't know what it is that you want to go for.
But that's the end goal, right?
That's the achievement in the end.
And there's a reason why I say,
I stay a little bit vague on what a goal really is
because I believe that a goal is more than just a statement.
So I actually like the word map for goal
because it's like a collection of different paths,
of different possibilities of maybe highways and footpaths,
you know, and different back alleys or whatever.
And it shows us maybe where we will probably slow down
because there is a mountain that we have to cross
or where we can go downhill and be faster.
Or, you know, like it gives us sort of an outline or an idea
of what we have to do, what we have to overcome
to actually see our dream realized in our life.
And I see more than that and it's not in stone, right?
Like we can discover new areas of the map,
we can unlock it like in a video game, right?
Over time, rather than that it is cast in stone.
And sometimes you have these people that recommend
that you have that goal statement and that's that, you know,
like you don't touch it until you achieve it.
And I think that's not, that's not healthy
because we change our environment changes.
We learn new things, we have new experiences
that we didn't have by the time when we set that goal.
And those things can all influence on how we feel
about that goal and how important it is to us.
And I think that is totally fine.
Like we get to change our minds, first of all, always
and also on our goals.
And second of all, we often need to change our approach
to things because life, you know,
there are 10 million reasons why we need to adjust.
And so having that really rigid, fixed plan,
I think is probably more hindering us
than actually helping us.
So it's, I just saw that sense that I wrote, I said,
I wrote down, you become an alchemist.
And I think that is true.
Like if you use your map, your goal map, right,
that brings you or that realizes your dreams
into reality, you turn something that is so vague,
that is so fluffy, that is so like out there
into something tangible that you can taste, you know,
in your life, you can see, you can maybe touch.
It's there, it's real.
And I think if that's not alchemy, I don't know.
So yeah, goal's help you become an alchemist.
It allows you to do that.
And let's talk a teensy bit about dreams and achievements
because that's what I said, right,
it transforms our dreams and our desires
into real life achievements, into reality.
So dreams are one of my favorite topics
because I believe that we all have very specific dreams
and we have very specific collection of dreams
and they differ to other people, right?
Like your collection of dreams,
your ideal life for yourself, your visions
that you have for yourself are unique to you.
We might share some of those.
Sure, I'm pretty sure there are many people
who want to be the fastest person on the planet.
So that is maybe not necessarily unique,
but the collection, like all the other visions
that you have for yourself,
all the other things that are important to you,
that entirely makes it unique to you.
And we have those for a reason and that is purpose.
It's your purpose in life to achieve your dreams, right?
To go after them, to use the tools that you have on hand
and to live that life, that you envisioned for yourself.
And that's why it is so unique
because your purpose is unique to you.
So I believe dreams are our guidelines,
our direction, give us and super important.
And I'm always very sad when people tell the dreams aside
because I'm like, "No, no, but that's who you are."
That's who you are becoming to be if you just listen to it
and if you allow it to unfold.
And I always encourage anyone who listens
to really trust in your dreams,
even though it sounds like a stupid homework postcards and things.
But there are there for a reason,
there are there to serve you and not to destroy you,
not to defame you, not to all of these negative things
that you might have heard about your dreams.
And when people call you crazy
or people call you unreasonable
and it's always fine and good when we're young,
people just give us a generous nod when they hear about our dreams.
And I'm like, "Yes, sure.
Are you going to fly to the moon?"
Yes, sure.
You're going to be the fastest person to plan it.
Believe in yourself.
Like they give you the encouragement and stuff.
And then out of its sun in,
you turn, I don't know what, 16 to 17,
I guess it depends on the culture as well at what age that happens.
It flips and they go like,
"Ah, no, but now you've got to be realistic."
Like, no, you should do something that is more solid
or like those are childish dreams, you know?
And I think that's very telling that we do that as a society
and I strongly disagree with that behavior.
Just, so I think there are so many things that we can do to uncover our dreams
because throughout our life as grown-ups, as adults,
we kind of forget what our dreams really are
and we forget to just blindly trust them.
And sometimes it seems that it's difficult also to differentiate
between what do we want because society told us that's what we want.
Like, you know, status thinking and, you know,
it's usually connected to a specific label in the sense of like your CEO
or your a national player or, you know, those things.
Sometimes it's related to material possessions
or like the contract that you got.
So, you know, if you, I don't know, if you're in football,
you want to become an NFL player because then you get the contract, you know?
And then you buy the cars and then you buy the house and all of these things.
And maybe those are your dreams, but sometimes I feel those are just injected by society, you know?
They're not really truly your dream, but nothing wrong about it, nothing bad about it.
I mean, it's just, it's all good, it's all fine.
I just believe that having that self-awareness of understanding like,
"Hey, I want this for myself because that's my dream and I want this for status."
As long as you're aware of it, I think it's all good.
I think it's all fine.
I think there are so many things you can do to uncover your dreams,
to basically unlearn that behavior to push them aside.
But that's not what today's episode is about.
You can, you know, maybe Google it, maybe, you know, do some meditation on it
or some brain dump writing, you know, we just put everything down.
And once you've written down the first 50 things that are the obvious ones,
the real stuff comes up or stuff like that.
You know, there's plenty of stuff.
If you want, I can make another episode on how to actually go there,
how to really uncover your dreams and what's important to you.
Let me know, I think I would love to do that as well.
But that's the dream part, right?
And usually our dreams, they range from super fuzzy to quite concrete.
Like the fastest person on the planet, that's a very concrete statement.
And then, you know, whatever, there's also then specific environments
or specific factors that you can count into it.
I think the fastest person on the planet, which distance, you know,
for example, like those things matter, you know, eventually,
are you the fastest marathon runner?
And that makes you the fastest person because you're the fastest long distance runner.
Or are you the 100 meter sprinter?
Because generally that's what we call the fastest person on the planet.
But I don't know, what about 50 meters?
You know, we don't measure those.
But wouldn't that make you the fastest person?
So I think even the concrete goals they might have,
they might have specifications, you know, to them, attached to them.
Now let's talk about achievement.
So achievement is, I said earlier, those are the concrete things in reality,
in real life, something that we can touch,
but something that we can see or it's recorded, it's documented,
it is real in your life, it is there.
It's not just in your head any longer, it is there,
and other people can see it as well.
And that is basically the achievement.
That is what we want in the end, because we do want to turn our dreams,
our desires into reality, right?
And reality is the 3D world that we live in.
So I don't know what else there is to say, it's the final result.
It's what you set out to do, the gold medal, the trophy,
crossing the finish line, the specific time that you run to be the first
fastest person on the planet, fastest person on the planet, or whatever it is.
And again, the goals are basically the magic of the in between.
Goals are the sprinkle and the fairy dust that gets you from that dream,
from your desire into that achievement, to having it in your real life.
So they have so many different purposes.
They give us directions, they shape our actions,
they give us a clarity about our efforts, about what we have to do.
They can serve as checkpoints.
They are often measurable, they are timeladed,
they come with specific KPIs, like things that you can make it out,
like, "Oh, okay, I got that time, so I can check all that gold."
They have performance benchmarks, for example.
And you can use your goals to track your improvement,
to see if you're still on the right path.
It can help you recover from setbacks.
Like, you know, all of these beautiful things,
all of the magic that I had, the fairy dust that I said,
that is all, in my opinion, hidden within the concept of goals and goals setting.
And that's why I think it is more than just a simple statement.
It's a promise.
Goals setting goals for yourself is a contract that you make with yourself
that holds you accountable.
Right?
It's from hoping to creating.
That's what it is.
That's the magic.
That's the promise that you make.
And there are different types of goals.
If we want to go maybe one level more into the concrete understanding,
there is outcome.
I think they're three different.
Once in general, that's what they say.
There are three different levels.
So there are outcome goals, which are pretty obvious related to the
goal matter to the super bowl ring on your finger or to the personal best
that you achieve to the distance that you jumped or height that you jumped
or whatever your sport is.
It's outcome related.
Right?
It's very clear, very specific.
And it's great for the overall vision, for the overall direction.
Usually outcome goals are direct specifications that come out of your
desires.
So when I said earlier, let me use a different example.
Let me use the example of, so your ski jumper and your you can just envision
yourself being the best ski jumper in your country for your nation.
You know, jump the furthest with the most beautiful team market.
That's the end, right?
That's you.
That's what you do and that's the vision that you see for yourself.
And an outcome goal would then be winning the national championship.
Right?
That's your outcome goal, because that's very clear.
You come out as number one.
And that makes you the best ski jumper in your nation, at least for that season, in your
age group for your gender.
You see, like, we need to be specific there because you can be the best ski
jumper with 16, but you can also be the best ski jumper with 25, you know?
So it all matters.
But that is your goal.
That's an outcome goal.
The quote unquote downside of outcome goal is that there are many things that
influence outcomes that have nothing to do with us, right?
They are a ski jumping.
Like, it could be the worst weather that day.
That's it.
It's super strong wins.
And the wins changed throughout the tournament.
The first jumper has the perfect like upwinds that would just carry them down the hill.
And when it was your turn, it was the worst, you know?
And the, what do you call it?
The in-run or like when you go down the, down the hill or the table was sticky because
it was getting weather, weather, and you know, all of these things that will not allow you
to have the best job.
So you didn't win, you know?
And that is freaking disappointing.
But it has nothing to do with your goal.
It has nothing to do with your achievement because those are external, external effects,
external factors that can't influence performance.
And you can't do nothing about it, right?
Yeah, you could be the best ski jumper in the world if the weather just doesn't play
along.
No chance.
No chance.
So that is a problem with outcome goals because if you only focus on those, they, they
won't allow you to basically go along with life, you know, with what happens around you
and to learn and to grow because it's either this or nothing.
So either you hit it or you just thought that's it, you know?
So the next type of goal is performance goals.
Performance goals, as the name says, they're related to your performance to your own, you
know, activity, basically, right?
I have nothing to do with any results.
So it could be, again, we're saying with the ski jumper, you want to run, you want to,
you want to land the perfect telemark.
You want to get the best points for your telemark, right?
That would be something that is performance related.
You want to hit it, hit it just the way the perfect way, you know?
And then that's something that you can work on.
So they relate to your own standards.
It could be personal best, you know, or specific times that you want to achieve.
At the classic example, I think for this would be marathon running where you want to have
a new personal best when you run your marathon, right?
That's performance related goals.
The last category would be process goals and again, the names are super descriptive.
So they are related to the process, obviously.
So that would be your actions, your behavior, your focus that you have, the habits that
you build.
They help you manage anxiety around reaching your goals as well.
So again, the ski jumper, it would be doing leg training, resistance trainings for your
legs three times a week, for example, right?
These legs, I think legs and core are probably the most important body parts for a ski jumper.
And you know, you do that training as part of your training plan, right?
And your goal is to whatever, do that three times a week.
That's process related.
That is focused on the process of becoming someone.
And they help you build habits.
It could be nutritional goals like you, whatever, you take your supplements every morning.
You know, you take them easy every night before you go to bed or whatever it is.
Those are process goals.
And they are very, usually they're very like small activity oriented.
And as you can see, outcome performance process, they go from big to small as well.
So having that sort of as a template, as a guideline for you is already a very good way
of breaking down your goals.
Now what I do not want to do in this episode is to tell you exactly how to create the perfect
goals.
Because I believe there's so many great methods out there.
There are so many great tools.
You can look at those.
There is smart goals.
There is clear goals.
There are so many other ways of doing it.
And they all are, therefore reason they all are good in their own way.
And I guess you just have to find the one that works for you.
And I feel there are other things that are more important about goal setting than that part.
So don't expect that from me now.
However, in general, what we can do to set our goals is as I said, we start kind of
high, fluffy with our desires, with our dreams, and we get really clear around those.
And I mean, we are talking here in the context of sports of athletics.
So look at your athletic goals and athletic dreams and desires.
What is it that you want to achieve?
And then from that part, you, before you go and break it down and become more concrete,
I would suggest that you kind of prioritize because we might have many great dreams, many,
many great, amazing things that we want to achieve in our lives.
And that is amazing.
However, doing it all at once makes everything more difficult, harder, a bit more cluttered,
less clear.
So I always suggest that you pick one or two that you want to focus on, ideally one.
So it is becoming the national champion as a ski jumper, for example, right?
And that is then the outcome goal.
And you start with that and you work around it, you massage it, you get clear, you use those
tools that are out there.
And then you keep breaking it down into the different types of goals, into performance
goals, into process goals that then help you to be more clear, more specific, more concrete.
And that is also sort of on how you then create your action plan, right?
And I think that's it.
That's the general gist of setting goals and the blanks that I left here, you can fill
in yourself in a way that makes you feel comfortable.
I think it's important to stay flexible with our goals because as I said earlier, life,
you know, things change, we change our environment changes, there is innovation, there is new technologies,
there is changes in maybe the rules or the way that the tournament happens or you know,
your sport gets added to the Olympics or it gets removed from the Olympics or whatever,
like so many things could happen, right?
I was recently talking to a sports climber and for her, a lot of things changed once sports
climbing was added as a sport to the Olympic Games because out of a sudden there is different
attention on it, there is different funding, there are not really different rules, but you
know, something's changed around it and stuff like that.
So, you know, your goals, your action plan, your activities, they might change because
life change.
So, stay as flexible as you need be and stay as rigid as you can be.
So, what I want to talk about, however, is weight.
One other thing I want to mention before I talk about what I believe are the two most important
things about goal setting and that is sharing your goals with others.
That I think is a slippery path because on the one hand, I think it's amazing to share
it because it makes you stay accountable, you can have to follow up on what you told other
people, depending on how public you go with that as well.
Also, you might get support network or people sharing you on, people helping you out, people
understanding why you cannot join the evening out and those things because they know you're
working towards your goal.
And know you are, you know, like, zone in to achieving that specific thing.
So maybe you'll be greeted with understanding and support from your immediate environment.
And I think those are really good reasons to share your goals with others.
However, there is also danger in that.
One thing is, and I learned that from Andrew Huberman, he says, don't share your goal
with the world because once you share that and you get that reaction from other people
and you talk about it, you get this positive feeling, this reinforcement and you feel great
about it and you're excited about it.
And that actually takes away from your motivation because it's sort of like you've already achieved
that without having done it, having to do it.
And it might take away from your motivation.
You might make it harder to put in the work and, you know, it's an effect that happens
in your brain, right?
It's the reward system in your brain that gives you the kudos, the thumbs up and like, yeah,
you are the baske jump brain donation.
You are the person.
And you get that sense of satisfaction and that then takes away from your motivation.
So that's a difficult one.
I thought that was super interesting.
What the brain does, huh?
And then also there is the problem that if you share your goals with other people, if you
share your dreams with other people, it's very likely that they get put put.
It's very likely that other people tell you, ah, yeah, but that's all good and fair.
But who are you to be the baske jumper in the nation?
How are you supposed to do it?
Like, it's expensive.
It's impossible.
So many people who are better or I don't believe you can do it.
Shouldn't you focus on your studies?
Shouldn't you, you know, make sure that you earn money and blah, blah, blah, blah.
Like there are 10 million reasons why it's ridiculous.
Why you are not the person.
And some of these reasons might even be like very valid input for you.
And you're like, hmm, how can I circumvent that situation?
How can I make sure I earn money while I train for it or whatever?
You know, but most of the things you know already, you know, and the problem is that many, many
people are very unhappy with their life and they have forgotten about their own dreams and
they do not allow themselves to go after their dreams and they are frustrated by that.
And then they see someone else who does it.
They see someone else who believes in their dreams and who believes in themselves.
And that's like a mirror for them, showing them like, see, I'm doing it.
You could do it too.
And people don't like that.
And instead of turning towards themselves and being like, you know, maybe they can do it,
but I don't want to do it or maybe I should do it too, whatever, they are tearing you down
because it's easier.
It's more comfortable for them.
And I think that happens all the time and that happens a lot on social media as well.
But it also happens in our close environment with our closest people.
So I think it's very, very wise to be careful about sharing our dreams, talking about our
goals.
So be very selective who you talk to when you talk about it.
And when in doubt, don't, when in doubt, don't share it because your dream, your goal,
like they might be still these little vulnerable seedlings, right?
Maybe you haven't shown the world yet what you can do.
You know it.
You're going for it, but the world doesn't.
So don't give them the ammunition.
Don't give them the chance to just trample on your seedlings, to trample on your dreams.
And life will be so much harder for you.
Like, to overcome that, to ignore that, to build yourself back up is so much harder than
just not being trampled at all.
And you know, usually I'm not like that, but in this specific case, I'm like, don't share
it.
They keep it to yourself.
Be very, very mindful who you share your dreams with.
Okay.
Now, the two most important things that are there for goal setting, according to Lisa, are
first, intention setting.
I feel like it's not talked about enough intentions are so powerful.
Your intentions are not your goals.
Your intentions are your, how you want your goal to be achieved.
It's focused around your experience.
It's focused around your mindset, around your emotions, around how you feel when you do
it.
It's the attitude that you have towards your goals, towards achieving your goals.
So instead of focusing on the outcome, for example, you focus on the process, you focus
on the how.
So it is, it is thinking about how do I feel when I train?
Like I have the best time with my teammates.
We are the greatest team that has ever lived.
And we have so much fun together.
We respect each other.
We share jokes.
We share handchakes.
But we also know when to focus, when to be serious.
We support each other.
Those things, those are intentions.
Those are intentions that you can set for your work within the team.
Or back to our ski jumper.
Your intention is to really enjoy the competition.
You really, let's say, you prepare it for the championships and the day is come.
And you just set the intention that you have the best day ever.
You have a good time with the other ski jumpers.
Even though they're competition, you still respect each other.
You have a good time with your coaches.
You're very much with yourself.
You're focused.
You're grounded.
You can feel your body.
And you feel like you know that you have a great day.
You know, that's an intention that you can set for yourself.
And it sets the tone for how you experience something.
Because quite often anxiety kicks in.
Right, it's a very human thing.
Most of us, we struggle with anxiety.
And anxiety is us preparing the future that could go wrong.
Think, think figuring out all of the things that could go wrong and how people react and
say, you know, anxiety would be like, oh my god, today is the championships.
What if I don't win?
What if the wind is too strong?
What if I slip?
What if people are rude to me, mean to me?
I'm pretty sure the audience they will not like me.
You know, like you start going there and setting an intention is sort of the antidote to
that.
It's the, you know what?
Whatever happens today, it's so important for me that I had a good time.
And I'm willing to have the best day out there.
Something like that, you know, and adding intentions to your goals.
So, you know, to a training session, let's say, you don't really feel like doing it again
today, you know, the third leg day of the week, right?
That's the process goal we said earlier, right?
The work of having leg day, like resistance trainings for our legs or lower body, three
times a week.
And you don't feel it.
You don't, you don't want to do it.
And then you go and set that intention off actually enjoying yourself.
You overcome your resistance.
You know what you're doing it.
And you had a good time in the gym.
You had, you know, a connection with the people around you.
And you really connected with your why and with your desire and with your dreams when
you did the workout and you felt better.
So that's an intention.
And we can set intentions around anything and it helps us elevate our goals.
It helps us alleviate distractions, anxiety, as I said earlier.
And it's really motivating because we get to create the experience that we want to have.
And the only difference is us being consciously involved in creating a good experience.
We're in creating a bad experience.
You know, and sometimes we're in different, like quite often we don't set intentions.
I would assume or I don't set intentions.
And then things are just how they are.
While they could be great, you know, but I just let it slip.
I didn't pay attention.
I just let it happen.
And then it was out of my control sort of.
And once I set an intention, I'm much more dialed in.
I'm much more focused and, you know, part of the whole process.
So intentions with your goals, they add the magic sprinkle confetti layer on your cake.
It's, it's priceless.
Like really give it a try it out, set intentions for whenever.
You know, I set intentions before I record a podcast.
Yeah, because I really want to have a good time doing it.
And I want to control the experience that I have.
The second thing.
The most important thing about setting a goal is your identity around that goal.
Do you believe you are the person that can actually achieve it?
That can actually do it.
Our identity is based on different things.
Part of it.
Huge part of it is our.
Understanding of our reality.
How we see the world and how we see ourselves within that world as a part of this environment.
Now how we understand ourselves is based in our or in big parts in our mindset, right?
In what we believe to be true and what we believe to be true are our belief systems.
And our beliefs are practice thoughts.
So I just don't broke it down for you.
You have the identity, you have your mindset, which is built on your belief system and your
belief system is done by your beliefs, beliefs, our thoughts and thoughts that we repeat over
and over again.
So if I keep thinking, who am I to be the fastest person in the world?
Who am I to be the best ski jumper in my country?
Like no, I am lazy.
I am whatever to fit.
I don't have the perfect body for a ski jumper, you know, I'm too small, I'm too big,
I'm too whatever, too wide or you know, like stuff like that.
Those are things that we keep repeating for ourselves until we believe them.
And then there is this miraculous thing that our mind does.
Our mind will always find proof that what it believes is true.
That's what it does.
So if you think or you tell yourself, I'm too small to be a good ski jumper, I'm too small
to ever jump that far, the mind will find the proof.
The mind will see other ski jumpers who jumped further and be like, ah, it's because they're
smaller or you mess up, you don't jump as far as you thought, it's because you're too small.
Like you will find 10 million reasons why this is true, what you believe is true and
that's when it becomes your identity.
So part of your identity is yes, I'm a ski jumper, but I'm a small ski jumper and I'm
too small to ever be the best.
If that is your identity or part of your identity, becoming the best ski jumper in your nation
is impossible because your mind will do everything possible to keep that identity, to confirm to
you that it is true, you are too small.
I don't know why I went with this example, but here we are.
So as long as you believe that, chances that you will be the best ski jumper in your country,
very, very small and it's probably more an accident than a conscious goal achievement.
So we all have these parts of our identity that keep us small, that hold us back.
And they're usually rooted like I don't want to go into all the details of it, but they usually
rooted somewhere in our childhood, some experiences that we had, something that our neighbor said
or our teacher said or maybe there were bullies in school or maybe it was something completely
unrelated to ski jumping and you learned that you were too small for that thing, maybe
when you were seven, you know, maybe you couldn't go on the road of cost because you were too
small and that thing, they just cemented in your brain, it's anchored in there, I'm too
small and now it's related to all things in your life, even though it has nothing to do
with it, you know?
And it's important that when we said goals, that we take a very close honest look at ourselves,
at our identity and our beliefs around that goal.
Do you really believe that it is possible for you to achieve that goal?
And if the honest answer is no, that is so fine, that is so okay because we all have that
shit in our brains, right?
All those beliefs that keep us safe or protect us from something from never happening again,
right?
So we can work on that.
If you know that, that is you, we can work on that and you can work on your identity.
So I don't know, let's go back to the leg day example.
So you could say, I'm a person who does leg day three days a week, that's it.
I am someone who does that and you just repeat that, repeat that, repeat that, repeat that
and that's a belief that becomes part of your identity.
You're also a person who brushes their teeth every day, right?
That's part of who you are, it's part of your identity.
Maybe not important, but it's part of who you are.
So you can slowly but surely integrate your goals into your identity to the point where
you remove limiting beliefs left and right and you believe that you should actually be
the best skit jump in your country or in the world for that matter.
So identity around your goals is the make it or break it.
Because you can have the best goals, you can have the greatest dreams and goals and you know
perfect plans around it if you don't believe that you can do it, you won't be able to do
it.
So yeah, intentions and identity work.
Those two aspects are according to me crucial for goal setting and without those two, I think
your experience is going to be a bit more difficult, harder and you could have fun instead.
Alright, I think that's all what I wanted to say about goal setting.
Let me know what you think about it.
I love it.
I think it's super interesting and I would love to hear your feedback and your thoughts
on it.
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And I am currently preparing future episodes.
The next episode will be on self talk, which is also, it's such a cool method.
I'm so excited to talk about that.
Until I hear you again or I see you again, I wish you a beautiful rest of your day.
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